Pay for access. Earn respect. Never confuse the two.
Some of you love saying, “A woman who can be bought isn’t worth having,” like it’s a mic drop. It’s not. It’s just loud insecurity dressed up as a “principle.” Because the truth is simple: you’re not offended by money—you’re offended by the fact you don’t control it, and you definitely don’t control her.
Let’s use common sense. If you think a woman’s value disappears the moment money enters the room, then you don’t actually respect women—you respect access. You want the fantasy of being “chosen” while still trying to set the rules, cap the cost, and keep your ego safe. That’s not love. That’s budgeting your masculinity.
And here’s the part you don’t want to admit: men have been paying for proximity forever—dates, gifts, trips, rent, rings, lifestyle. The only difference now is the honesty. When a woman is direct about standards, boundaries, and compensation, suddenly it’s “she can be bought.” No. She can be paid. Bought implies ownership. Paid implies you’re receiving a service, an experience, a moment of her time—while she remains fully in charge of herself.
Now, since I’m on my 3-day weekend, let’s make this painfully easy for the ones who suddenly “don’t know how to reach me.” If you already have an approved text/chat channel with me, use it—brief, respectful, and to the point. If you don’thave an approved channel, you don’t magically earn one by spamming random numbers, blowing up DMs, or acting confused on purpose. And while we’re here: stop being a big grown baby. If you want access, follow instructions like an adult.
So if you need to repeat that line to feel superior, keep it. But don’t confuse your coping mechanism with character. A woman with standards isn’t “for sale.” She’s simply not available to people who think entitlement counts as effort.